First of all, let's establish something. I'm a crier. I don't care if it's a sports movie, a sappy movie, a surprise reunion, or even that bloody Wal-Mart commercial where the soldier Mom comes home from war just in time for Christmas, I'm going to cry. Let's get real here people. After I watched Titanic, I sobbed for an hour. An hour! I didn't have any idea what love was at that point, but I was sure those people would never recover from the loss of it. The Vow was good. Was it a good idea to go on Valentine's Day when I had already had a good pre-game pity party for my well established singledom? Probably not. Either way, we went. I'm not going to give anything away in this post, no worries for those of you who haven't seen it. Well, at least, not anything that isn't already given away in the trailer. Sometimes, I have found recently, that certain movies strike different cords in me and bother me in ways that I didn't expect. I liked The Vow. I think it is a totally plausible storyline (obviously since it's based on a true story). What I didn't like was the feeling of frustration for unrequited love that he felt the whole time. It's an all too familiar feeling for me and for some reason bothers me more now than it ever did when I was living through it. The fight for love from one's spouse is a hopeless feeling and I didn't like feeling that throughout the movie. Granted, it's not her fault, she doesn't remember. Either way, totally depressing. Can we talk about good 'ole Leo for a second though. He's so patient with her and he loves her with a love that is total and all encompassing. I love his character and how he just wants her to be happy despite everything he is feeling. I love his gentleness. I love how he's willing to drop everything to make her fall in love with him again. So precious. If only life were always that simple and you could find that one person who will love you totally and completely that way. Sometimes I have a hard time with movies like that because all they do is make you reflect on the love you don't have or worse the love you've lost. So here's a question, is it better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all? Anymore I can't decide but most days I'm leaning towards, no. No it's not.
I just watched the Vow last night and I completely understand. Great post by the way. When it comes to love and life, it really is about how we respond to those monumental moments. Think of the characters and how they would react to the choice of whether or not to let go of their love... If they tried to move on, were they able to grow from it? The ones that were successful versus the ones that were not...
ReplyDeleteI believe truly believe that love is worth fighting for and the only way we can do that is by pulling people along, serving them, loving them completely. We are honest with our feelings and make it easy for those we love all to see the reasons why they should choose us. But in the end, we let them know that we will love them no matter what, even if they choose differently. We cannot force people to feel or think the same as we do. But I would say that love lost rather than love never found, though it may be more painful and cost what at times feels like more than what we can bear, it is part of the process of finding what we truly want and are searching for. It refines us so that when we find the one that we love and they love us, we understand what love is a little more deeply than before. We are better than before. I believe whole heartedly it is worth the cost.