Mr. Right

So, I've been feeling like blogging a lot lately. I've had a lot to say apparently. I have also been asked a lot what my ideal, perfect guy looks like/what I'm looking for in a guy. I don't normally make these lists because I think they limit you in a lot of ways. Sometimes, it takes a while of getting to know someone before you realize their value and how much you actually are attracted to them. At least that's the theory right? Well without further adieu allow me to introduce you all to Mr. Right (for me).

I think confidence is the sexiest thing in the world. You could be a solid 6 in the looks department, but you show up with some confidence and personality and I'm going to automatically bump you up to an 8, maybe even a 9. When someone can own a room, just by their presence and charisma.......nothing sexier. I like to describe this as social confidence. You don't necessarily need to be the socialite of the year. In fact, that can get overwhelming. No one is trying to win a popularity contest here. But, if I take you home to meet the fam, it is crucial to know you can hold your own. There are a lot of strong personalities in my family and it's easy to get overlooked. No wallflowers that won't interact. I need someone that will be comfortable shooting the breeze with my cousins, aunts, and uncles about heavens knows what and that won't resent the fact that strangers are talking to you.

I'm done babysitting. I need someone who knows what they believe and sticks to it because that's what they want to do. I am all about being with someone who makes you a better person. I mean that's the point of the plan of happiness and eternal marriage right? However, that in no way means that I want to carry the spiritual burden for the rest of my life. I need someone who I can trust to follow his beliefs and morals without my pushing and prodding all the time. Also, honor your priesthood. I didn't grow up with the Priesthood in my home and so that is super important to me. I need to know that when I ask you for a blessing for me or our children, you'll be there to give it. Worthy and ready. This might sound wrong but guys who honor their priesthood and use it without hesitation are so attractive. Something about it.......yeah.

Looks cannot be the most important thing in the world to you. I know this is hard. Let's face it, you guys are visually stimulated. However, one day, I'm going to have had a few kids and I'm not going to look 21 anymore. Not that I do now......I need to know, that you aren't going to take off just because the going gets tough in the looks department. This in no way means I plan on "letting myself go" or becoming some grotesque slob. I just need to know that you will be around if let's say I get paralyzed or burned, or whatever. I need to know that you can look beyond the physical to the person that is inside.

I need someone who can stimulate me intellectually and will let me do the same for them. I don't want someone who I feel I can outwit. It's kind of a turn off for me. My family is sarcastic and all pretty quick witted. You gotta keep up. I love it when I can banter back and forth and a guy doesn't get upset but can dish out just as much as he can take. I'm not talking full blown arguments nor do I think you should be disrespectful of your significant other. Just, the mind is a terrible thing to waste, so you gotta be able to keep up. Also, I don't want someone who is intimidated by my obvious intelligence, hahaha I kid, I kid. But for reals, don't put me down because you fear I'm just as smart as you.

Sense of humor. I love to laugh. I need someone who I can laugh with. I need someone who can make me laugh. I love random humor found in every day life. Life is too short to always be uptight about it. If something happens embarrassing, let's laugh about it. Don't be overly sensitive.

You gotta love sports. Why, I'm not sure. I have this ideal image of my life and it consists of Saturday football games, I'm making all the food and we have a ton of friends over to watch the game. I want to be die hard fans and love the team together. I think this comes from my need for a man's man. I promise to keep the house stocked with chips and dips, bbq, cold dr. peppers, and whatever else you want, if you promise to always have the game on and be cheering super loud.

The man's man is so important I've realized. I'm not a super girly girl. If I feel like in some situations I'm more of a man than you are, we have a problem. I need someone who is comfortable enough to understand I'm just as capable in a lot of areas of life as they are, but also that wants and needs to feel like they are taking care of me. I love feeling like someone cares enough to do the little things that show you care.

Affection......can we talk about how much I love this. I'm not some huge PDA fan, but I don't mind holding hands in public, or the occasional kiss in public. My favorite part of being with someone is having access to kissing them whenever I want. I love just being grabbed and kissed, so feel free. Also, if we're watching a movie, please cuddle with me. I love it.

You have to be playful. There is something about wrestling around that just does it for me. I go a little nuts about it. Maybe it's the whole, kind of like being man-handled a bit thing, But let's be honest, I like to feel like a woman and so the fact that you can hold me down and there's nothing I can do about it, but you wouldn't do it for real because you are a gentleman thing is totally hot. Work it.

Gotta be open to new things and easy-going. One of the biggest turn-offs for me is temper. If you are quick to anger, forget it. We're done. If it takes a lot to get you angry and then you don't like to show it in front of me, I will respect you so much more. You're a big man, you're scary when you're angry. Keep that in mind.

I think that about sums up Mr. Right. There's more, but I'm tired and who knows what will come out of my mouth/fingers at this hour.